Being Spontaneous Is Not For Me

I keep hearing the word "spontaneous" thrown around a lot on dating sites.  I've tried desperately to become more spontaneous since so many guys seem to want that.  However, I've discovered something important about me - I AM NOT SPONTANEOUS!

I am really tired of guys crawling out of the woodwork and asking me to go on dates at the last minute.  First of all, that is an insult to me.  I have other plans many nights.  I am sick of guys being offended when I say no simply because I have other plans.  Am I not worth asking out at least a day ahead of time?  Obviously some other guys think I am worth it, because 9 times out of 10, I am going out with a guy who has the common courtesy to ask me out at least one day in advance.

Most of all, guys must not understand that women can't just throw on the first t-shirt they find in the closet.  It takes a while to get ready for a date.  I need to shower, fix my hair, apply makeup, put on jewelry, get dressed, do my nails, etc.  If a man wants to date a woman that looks halfway decent, he can't just ask, "Hey, want to meet up in an hour?"  NOOOO!!!!  

Guys, you can't have spontaneous and have a woman that looks attractive all at the same time.  Every now and then, I am already fixed up and ready to go because some other jerk asked me out and stood me up.  In this case, I might be able to meet you last minute.  You can ask just to see if that has happened, but it is not something that happens often.  So basically, in most cases, do you want us to look nice or do you just want some chick that shows up at the bar?  Just let us know.  I can easily meet up with you in my pajamas with no makeup on if you are not picky.  Something tells me you'd be pissed off though.

Don't get me wrong, I am OK with being spontaneous once the date begins.  OK, so we meet up for coffee, but then the guy decides let's go have some ice cream, too.  Sure, that is fine.  But last minute guys, it is an insult to women to think we are just sitting by the computer waiting for your invite.  It never hurts to ask, but don't be pissy when we already have plans.  You see, I have this thing called work and these people in my life called friends and family members.  I do that type of thing, too.  So calm down!  If you wait the last minute and I don't have time, that is on you, not me.  Deal with it!

Angry Dudes, There is a Reason Why You are Single

I am a little tired of the "poor me" trend on dating sites.  I am not sure what is going on with women and their profiles since I am not checking out that end of the dating sites, but I can say for sure men think they are being abused on dating sites.  Too many guys are just sitting around feeling sorry for themselves, posting weird pics, and creeping out women with inappropriate messages.  Of course, none of that is their fault; its the women of the world that have ruined their lives.

I keep seeing more and more guys write on pages, "looking for something real" or "not looking for someone fake."  Well, who is approaching you?  Robots?  What is going on with you?  Real guys approach me all day long on dating sites.  I talk to some and I ignore some.  I don't know why guys are taking these sites so seriously.

First of all, if you reject a guy in anyway now, you have be afraid he is going to send nasty messages to you until you block him.  It is terrible!  Just because I might not want to date a guy doesn't mean I am not "real."  It means I am honest.  If you are a dude that sends threatening or nasty messages to chicks online, I have two words for you: anger management.  Perhaps that is why you can't find a date.  Did you ever think it is not them, it is you?

Second, dating sites should be fun.  Guys with poor attitudes ruin it for the rest of us.  If some of you guys are wondering why there aren't more "quality women" online, perhaps it is because of jerks scaring them off.  No woman wants to receive vulgar messages cursing her or accusing her of things that are not true. 

Most of all, I can't figure out why guys think it is a good idea to be so rude or argue online.  You are not going to win your case.  I am going to block you or even turn you in to the site admins.  If you are a psycho, you shouldn't be dating anyone.  Seek help next time before you threaten a chick online, weirdo guys!  After all, once you insult me, I certainly do not want to go out with you.  How can you think threatening a person is a good idea?  Has being mean ever really made a woman want to date you?

Angry guys of the world, please do us all a favor and stay away from online dating sites.  Get some mental help before you approach anyone again.  Online dating is just like the real world.  Sometimes you get rejected. Life is full of disappointments.  I learned that by first grade.  It is a shame there are guys out there who never learned that lesson.  If a woman tries tells you no, it is nothing personal... it could be for any reason at all.  Calm down and move on to the next woman.  There are plenty of us out there.  Just don't yell at us for no reason!