Reasons Why I Quit

I am officially not using any dating sites at the present time.  I had shut down OKCupid recently, but I completely snapped this morning and pulled the plug on Plenty of Fish, too.  I just could not take the ridiculousness of the site anymore.

I came to the realization last night that I was going to all new lows as far as online dating goes.  I realized all of sudden that I was communicating with men I would have never given the time of day just a few months ago.  It is always good to explore and expand your horizons, but there is a such thing as hitting rock bottom.  Last night, I determined I was there.

Some of the guys I've been considering dating lately are men I know are completely wrong for me.  I have even been out with some of these guys.  I am talking about men living with their parents and not necessarily even working.  One guy was even living with his mother and out on parole.  Really?  Is there where my dating life is now? 

I realize I had a major setback recently and allowed myself to actually care about someone.  In return, he basically stopped talking to me and has no interest in me any longer.  That is what I get for caring.  I think I was hurt and tried to fill the emptiness with creepy guys that I knew were not my type.  But all of that is over.

As of this morning, no more dating websites for a while.  It will be nice to focus on my blogs and articles again anyway.  Don't worry though... I will still update this blog from time to time since I still have a surplus of wacky stories to share.  Also, some of my friends are still using dating sites, so I am sure I will have their stories to share as well.  The dating wackiness never ends!

Is It Time to Give Up?

I will be honest, I consider quitting dating sites at least once a week.  It really shouldn't be this difficult to meet someone halfway decent, but yet it is.

In the past year since I've been using OKCupid and Plenty of Fish, I've met all kinds of guys... perverts, shy guys, annoying guys, and a guy whose been arrested for domestic violence and assault many times.  I've been cussed out for not responding to random email messages fast enough.  I've been told off because I was not willing to drop everything and run out to meet some guy I don't even know for drinks simply because he waited the last minute to ask.  It is rough out there.

I always say the key to online dating success is keeping upbeat about it and not taking it seriously.  You have to laugh at it... and some of it is funny!  However, I am not having fun anymore.  I've been asked out by some new guys this week, so perhaps they will renew my interest in dating again.  For now, I am not in the right frame of mind.  I would rather be single for the rest of my life rather than date some of these weirdos I've been dealing with.

So basically, I am going to see how the next week or two goes.  I am tired of being hurt.  I am tired of being verbally abused.  I am tired of being disappointed.  Guys, if you wonder why there aren't enough decent women on these sites, know this is why - real women that honestly want to date a nice guy are being mistreated by the guys they do date. 

All I am saying is, there are a lot of dudes that need to work on being at least a little nicer.  If you say you are showing up for a date, actually show up.  (Yes, I've been stood up recently.) If you ask me out on a date, offer to pay for my meal, especially if YOU asked me and I only ate soup. (Yes, this has also happened to me recently.) You can at least give me a "heads up" that you have no intention on paying.  If you ask me out and I can't make it because it is such short notice, don't get angry at me.  (Yes, this has happened to me A LOT lately.)

So, my friends, let's see how it goes this week.  I hope to keep blogging about my dating adventures, but we shall see.  A person can only handle so much.