OK, my online dating buddies out there, let me give you some advice... please don't send someone an email with a standard paragraph about yourself that you have not bothered to customize for the person you are approaching. Let me explain exactly what I mean by this.
I've had some guys that copy and paste what is obviously their standard email when they message me. How do I know this? Because I don't respond to what looks like a standard script sent to every woman online, yet, I don't delete them either. Literally, some guys approach me once a week with the EXACT same paragraph. Nothing has changed to let me know the guy actually read my profile at all. It is actually funny... and sad at the same time.
My advice to you copy and pasters out there would be to STOP copying and pasting, or at least change some details each time. We actually notice this type of thing. I am not going respond to anyone that seems desperate and is just copying and pasting text for every female he sees online. Please at least indicate one small detail like, "Hey, I like your glasses in your 3rd pic," or "I like Kings of Leon, too." That way, I at least know you took the time to read my profile.
I am bewildered by the fact that this seems like hard work or an impossible mission for some of you online daters. It takes minutes to type a few sentences. I just started writing this post about 5 minutes ago, and just look at what I have achieved! Taking a few extra moments to personalize your message will go a long way. If you don't have the time to send a personalized message, my guess would be you don't have time to date either. Give that one a little thought before you send me some boring, standard email 4weeks in a row, dudes! Thanks!
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Angry Dudes, There is a Reason Why You are Single
I am a little tired of the "poor me" trend on dating sites. I am not sure what is going on with women and their profiles since I am not checking out that end of the dating sites, but I can say for sure men think they are being abused on dating sites. Too many guys are just sitting around feeling sorry for themselves, posting weird pics, and creeping out women with inappropriate messages. Of course, none of that is their fault; its the women of the world that have ruined their lives.
I keep seeing more and more guys write on pages, "looking for something real" or "not looking for someone fake." Well, who is approaching you? Robots? What is going on with you? Real guys approach me all day long on dating sites. I talk to some and I ignore some. I don't know why guys are taking these sites so seriously.
First of all, if you reject a guy in anyway now, you have be afraid he is going to send nasty messages to you until you block him. It is terrible! Just because I might not want to date a guy doesn't mean I am not "real." It means I am honest. If you are a dude that sends threatening or nasty messages to chicks online, I have two words for you: anger management. Perhaps that is why you can't find a date. Did you ever think it is not them, it is you?
Second, dating sites should be fun. Guys with poor attitudes ruin it for the rest of us. If some of you guys are wondering why there aren't more "quality women" online, perhaps it is because of jerks scaring them off. No woman wants to receive vulgar messages cursing her or accusing her of things that are not true.
Most of all, I can't figure out why guys think it is a good idea to be so rude or argue online. You are not going to win your case. I am going to block you or even turn you in to the site admins. If you are a psycho, you shouldn't be dating anyone. Seek help next time before you threaten a chick online, weirdo guys! After all, once you insult me, I certainly do not want to go out with you. How can you think threatening a person is a good idea? Has being mean ever really made a woman want to date you?
Angry guys of the world, please do us all a favor and stay away from online dating sites. Get some mental help before you approach anyone again. Online dating is just like the real world. Sometimes you get rejected. Life is full of disappointments. I learned that by first grade. It is a shame there are guys out there who never learned that lesson. If a woman tries tells you no, it is nothing personal... it could be for any reason at all. Calm down and move on to the next woman. There are plenty of us out there. Just don't yell at us for no reason!
I keep seeing more and more guys write on pages, "looking for something real" or "not looking for someone fake." Well, who is approaching you? Robots? What is going on with you? Real guys approach me all day long on dating sites. I talk to some and I ignore some. I don't know why guys are taking these sites so seriously.
First of all, if you reject a guy in anyway now, you have be afraid he is going to send nasty messages to you until you block him. It is terrible! Just because I might not want to date a guy doesn't mean I am not "real." It means I am honest. If you are a dude that sends threatening or nasty messages to chicks online, I have two words for you: anger management. Perhaps that is why you can't find a date. Did you ever think it is not them, it is you?
Second, dating sites should be fun. Guys with poor attitudes ruin it for the rest of us. If some of you guys are wondering why there aren't more "quality women" online, perhaps it is because of jerks scaring them off. No woman wants to receive vulgar messages cursing her or accusing her of things that are not true.
Most of all, I can't figure out why guys think it is a good idea to be so rude or argue online. You are not going to win your case. I am going to block you or even turn you in to the site admins. If you are a psycho, you shouldn't be dating anyone. Seek help next time before you threaten a chick online, weirdo guys! After all, once you insult me, I certainly do not want to go out with you. How can you think threatening a person is a good idea? Has being mean ever really made a woman want to date you?
Angry guys of the world, please do us all a favor and stay away from online dating sites. Get some mental help before you approach anyone again. Online dating is just like the real world. Sometimes you get rejected. Life is full of disappointments. I learned that by first grade. It is a shame there are guys out there who never learned that lesson. If a woman tries tells you no, it is nothing personal... it could be for any reason at all. Calm down and move on to the next woman. There are plenty of us out there. Just don't yell at us for no reason!
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
A Roller Coaster of Online Dating Stupidity
Do you want to know what is weird about online dating? It really comes in spurts. For weeks, no one approaches you or just super creepy guys that only post "hey" and nothing more try to talk to you. Forget about those guys! It doesn't matter if you keep logging in and keep active on the site, there are no fish biting (that is a Plenty of Fish joke... never mind). But one day, all of that changes.
One day, you login and 3 guys with potential want to talk to you. While talking to them, even more guys approach you. I recently had a week with about 8 - 10 decent guys with great potential asking me out. Who has that kind of free time? It was crazy! I had to pick and choose the best from a great selection.
Of course, one guy never showed up. A couple of guys backed out. One guy just wasn't for me. Two guys turned out to be OK. I ended up not being able to keep up with the rest of the guys, so they stopped talking to me. So now, here I sit, with no new prospects. No one is new and exciting. It is just back to creepy guys again. I am just left with the hope that the two OK guys will decide to go out with me again.
Sigh. Online dating is not for the faint of heart. You absolutely can't take it seriously. If I thought too much about all this stuff, I might go insane. Well, more insane than I am already, if that is possible.
One day, you login and 3 guys with potential want to talk to you. While talking to them, even more guys approach you. I recently had a week with about 8 - 10 decent guys with great potential asking me out. Who has that kind of free time? It was crazy! I had to pick and choose the best from a great selection.
Of course, one guy never showed up. A couple of guys backed out. One guy just wasn't for me. Two guys turned out to be OK. I ended up not being able to keep up with the rest of the guys, so they stopped talking to me. So now, here I sit, with no new prospects. No one is new and exciting. It is just back to creepy guys again. I am just left with the hope that the two OK guys will decide to go out with me again.
Sigh. Online dating is not for the faint of heart. You absolutely can't take it seriously. If I thought too much about all this stuff, I might go insane. Well, more insane than I am already, if that is possible.
Monday, June 11, 2012
Welcome to my blog!
This blog is going to focus on the stupidity of online dating. For any of you that have tried online dating, you know what I am talking about. The men that post shirtless pics and mugshot looking photos; the women that say they've gain a few pounds, but that really means 50 pounds instead. Let's not even talk about those folks that post photos from the 1980s because they haven't been near a camera in decades.
It is a scary world out there, my friends. There are scary people online. And they want to date you! I am here to share the horror stories, the success stories, and mock people along the way. It is going to be a good time... if you dare!
This blog will mostly focus on the best of the free dating sites: OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, MyYearbook, and possibly, Craigslist (ouch, really scary stuff there!). However, if you have a story to share about a site you were actually willing to pay to use, like eHarmony, Chemistry, or Match, please feel free to share. I like to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly, as far as online dating goes.
It is a scary world out there, my friends. There are scary people online. And they want to date you! I am here to share the horror stories, the success stories, and mock people along the way. It is going to be a good time... if you dare!
This blog will mostly focus on the best of the free dating sites: OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, MyYearbook, and possibly, Craigslist (ouch, really scary stuff there!). However, if you have a story to share about a site you were actually willing to pay to use, like eHarmony, Chemistry, or Match, please feel free to share. I like to hear the good, the bad, and the ugly, as far as online dating goes.
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